JEALOUSY, ENVY, COVETOUSNESS
- Covetousness: painfully desirous of another's advantages, possessions, looks, or qualities; "jealous of his success and covetous of his possessions"; "envious of their art collection"
- Envy: A feeling of discontent and resentment aroused by and in conjunction with desire for the possessions or qualities of another.
- Jealousy: A feeling of grudging admiration and desire to have something that is possessed by another.
KRISHNAMURTI ON JEALOUSY
"Thought inevitably breeds the feeling of ownership, that possessiveness which consciously or unconsciously cultivates jealousy. Where jealousy is, obviously love is not; and yet with most people, jealousy is taken as an indication of love. Jealousy is the result of thought, it is a response of the emotional content of thought. When the feeling of possessing or being possessed is blocked, there is such emptiness that envy takes the place of love. It is because thought plays the role of love that all the complications and sorrows arise." - Jiddu Krishnamurti
DON'T COMPARE YOURSELF NEGATIVELY WITH OTHERS
We cannot be another person so there is no sense in harbouring jealousy, envy, or covetousness, nor anger, hatred, or violence towards another person.
Realising that the only person that will truly be hurt by these afflictions is me, I can resolve to like and look after myself, working on my own self-development, strengthening my weaknesses, overcoming my problems and creating a holistically healthy and happy life for myself and my loved ones, so that I will never need to feel jealousy or envy ever again, and I can show others how to overcome it also.
If others have a greater power of activity and are able to do and achieve far more than us, then we may feel resentment towards them and self loathing towards ourselves because we feel inadequate when compared to others. This is the emotion of jealousy.
It is not so much that we desire that which others have but we feel negative towards their abilities and negative towards our apparent lack when we compare ourselves with others.
Jealousy is here taken to be the same as envy. It is defined to be a sorrow which one entertains at another's well-being because of a view that one's own excellence is in consequence lessened. Its distinctive malice comes from the opposition it implies to the supreme virtue of charity. The law of love constrains us to rejoice rather than to be distressed at the good fortune of our neighbour. Besides, such an attitude is a direct contradiction of the spirit of solidarity which ought to characterize the human race.
The envious man tortures himself without cause, morbidly holding as he does, the success of another to constitute an evil for himself. The sin, in so far as it defies the great precept of charity, is in general grievous, although on account of the trifling matter involved, as well as because of the lack of deliberation, it is often reputed to be venial. Jealousy is most evil when one repines at another's humanitarian good.
COVETOUSNESS: Wanting that which others have
Do not covet thy neighbors goods.
Yearning for that which is not ours or is not realistic at the current moment in our lives, comparing our own achievements with other's, or setting our aims beyond our means can only really produce negative outcomes for ourselves and in our relationships with others.
If we fall prey to covetousness then we will waste our time and energy in unnecessary and painful pursuits. We will become highly competitive as we strive to better our neighbour. We may turn to criminal activity to get that wish our envious and greedy mind has set itself upon.
Envy leads to resentment, jealousy, anger, spite and hatred. Negativity that will only upset us and make us ill.
At the end of the day it is we who will suffer the most from the effects of jealousy and envy, and we may cause a lot of unnecessary pain for others too.